Domestic violence

If you are in immediate danger call the police on 999

How we can help 

If you are frightened or are being hurt by your partner, ex-partners or another family member, we will do our best to help you get the support, advice and information you need. We understand that this can be a difficult topic to talk about but you will be able to speak to us in private, over the phone or in person.

 

What is domestic violence

Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviour on the part of the abuser designed to control his partner. It can happen at any point in a relationship, including after you have split up.

 

Spotting the signs of domestic violence

»Is your partner jealous and possessive?

»Is he charming one minute and abusive the next?

»Does he tell you what to wear, where to go, who to see?

»Does he constantly put you down?

»Does he play mind games and make you doubt your judgment?

»Does he control your money?

»Does he pressure you to have sex when you don’t want to?

»Are you starting to walk on eggshells to avoid making him angry?

»Does he monitor or track your movements or messages?

»Does he use anger and intimidation to frighten and control you?

 

Types of abuse

»Psychological abuse

Includes name-calling, threats and manipulation, blaming you for the abuse or ‘gas-lighting’ you.

»Economic abuse

Controlling your access to money or resources. He might take your wages, stop you working, or put you in debt.

»Sexual abuse

Doesn’t have to be physical. He might manipulate or coerce you into doing things you don’t want to do.

»Coercive control

When an abuser uses a pattern of behaviour over time to exert power and control. It is a criminal offence.

»Physical abuse

Not only hitting. He might restrain you or throw objects. He might pinch or shove you and claim it’s a ‘joke’.

»Tech abuse

He might send abusive texts, demand access to your devices, track you with spyware, or share images of you online.

 

Organisations that can help

»Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Phone: 0808 200 0247

»Rape Crisis Centre (England and Wales)

Phone: 0808 802 9999

»Rights of women

Phone: 020 7251 6575

»Galop (for the LGBTQ community)
Phone: 0800 999 5428

»Live Fear Free Helpline (Wales)
Phone: 0808 801 0800

»Men’s Advice Line
Phone: 0808 801 0327

»Respect Phoneline
Phone: 0808 802 4040

»Scotland’s Domestic Abuse and Force Marriage Helpline (Scotland)
Phone: 0800 027 1234

»Scottish Women’s Aid (Scotland)
Phone: 0131 226 6606

»Women’s Aid Federation (Northern Ireland)
Phone: 0800 917 1414